How to Teach Children About Obeying Rules: 5 Steps - MakeSureHow
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Obeying rules will be easier for your child if you're consistent and firm.

Life's tough with a disobedient child, isn't it? No matter how much you nag and scold and shout, your little one just keeps pushing those boundaries and doesn't show a single sign of stopping soon. You may be at your wits' end by now, but cheer up -- you can still teach your child how to obey the rules and make both of your lives much easier.


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    No spanking. Even though spanking might seem like a tempting choice in the heat of the moment, the American Academy of Pediatrics has noted that it leads to stronger aggression and anger. Studies have also shown that spanked children are more likely to become depressed and engage in crime than their non-spanked counterparts. The message is clear: Don't do it!
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    Make the rules -- and their consequences if disobeyed -- clear and easy to understand. Don't make vague statements like, "Be good -- or else!" Instead, give your child a clear rule -- "Don't hit your little cousin," for example -- and attach a consequence, like "No TV tonight!" To make sure your child understands, have him repeat the rule and consequence back to you.
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    Help your child see the natural consequences of his actions. To use the previous example, you can also tell your child, "If you keep hitting your little cousin, he won't want to play with you anymore, and then you'll be all by yourself! That won't be much fun, will it?"
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    Be firm and follow through with punishment. The only way your child will learn to obey the rules is if he knows that their consequences are swift and inevitable. If you're inconsistent on this one, you'll just encourage him to push the limits more and more.
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    Think before you speak. Before you tell your child what the punishment will be for his actions, be prepared to act on it. Impractical or excessive punishments don't teach kids to obey the rules; if anything, such punishments might cause them to lose respect for you. Tailor the consequences to the crime.

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