How to Parent when You Are in a Bad Mood: 5 Steps - MakeSureHow
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Don't take your bad mood out on your kids.

Though your kids see you as a magical creature who can manifest meals and make tears disappear, you know the ugly truth -- parents are just people, no more, no less. As such, you are entitled to experience an occasional (gasp!) bad mood. Whether you’re mad at your boss or the mean lady who cut you off in traffic, don’t feel pressured to put on a brave face. Tell your kids the truth about how you feel. You’d bend over backwards to cheer them up -- don’t you think they’d do the same for you?


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    Focus on the positive. Fight the temptation to think about your problems, rather than your joys. Recognize that whatever is putting you in a bad mood could always be worse. Use your awesome offspring as motivation; remind yourself how blessed you are to be surrounded by tiny faces dripping with unconditional love... or is that drool?
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    Let it go. Get your negative feelings off your chest. Keep in mind that it's impossible to hold your frustration inside; those feelings are going to come out, one way or another. Direct the flow of your anger so your kids don’t get caught in the aftermath when you eventually explode. Whether you have to journal, pray, call your best friend or lock yourself in the bathroom for a 10-minute cry, find a healthy way to release your pent up negativity.
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    Talk about how you feel. "Parent" and "perfect" both start with the letter "P," but that’s the only thing they have in common. You don’t have to be a shiny, happy person all the time. Don’t hold yourself to an impossible standard. Discuss your bad mood with your kids, so they understand they aren’t the cause of your frustration. Stuffing your emotions can bring on an untimely, misdirected release, but open communication helps solve the problem at the source. Say to your kids, “Mommy is sad today,” or “Daddy doesn’t feel like smiling.” Your kids will understand. They have bad days, too.
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    Lower your standards. Drop your impossibly high, self-imposed expectations. The parent police won’t come get you if the dishes are dirty or the beds are unmade. Don’t compound your bad mood with unnecessary guilt and responsibility. Whatever the chore, if you don’t feel like doing it, don’t. Wait until your mood improves. Be kind to yourself, so you can be kind to your kids.
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    Distract your children so you can slip away to rejuvenate yourself. Put them in front of their favorite movie or television show, or let them play in the yard for a while. Newspaper the room and plant your munchkins in front of a messy art project. Shut off the lights, close the curtains and call, “Nap time!” Use these precious stolen moments to read a chapter from your favorite book or to sip a glass of wine. Fix your favorite snack. Troll the Internet for juicy gossip. Pamper yourself until you feel like a person again.

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