Comfort children during emotional moments so that they know you are there for them.
Do you ever walk into a room and find your child crying or upset for what seems like no reason at all? Well, it's really not a big shock when you think about it. Children are trying to cope with and understand all the big emotions — fear and anger; hurt and love. Having been in this world for a short time, they will struggle with emotions that are new to them. To help shape them into functioning adults, you must first help them become strong children by teaching them how to cope with their emotions. Here are some tips that will help you with that.
1Spend time with your child so that you can guide his feelings in different situations and let him know that you are there for him when he needs you. When something happens during an outing, such as another child pushing him, be there to comfort him and to explain his feelings in a way that he will understand. For example, you might say, "I know it wasn't nice for that boy to push you, and it's OK that you're upset. It hurts our feelings when someone doesn't act nice, doesn't it? But you are OK, aren't you? How about getting back out there to play? I'll be right here if you need me." When discussing feelings, be comforting, understanding and reassuring.
2Pay attention to how you react to situations. Your child will learn her behaviors from you before anyone else, so if you act upset because you just spilled something, then you can't expect any different from her. Instead, if something happens, count to 10, and say things out loud, such as, "It's OK. It can be cleaned up, and I can get more at the store. So, no problem." Your child will hear you and understand that meltdowns aren't necessary in most situations.
3Stay positive. Children not only pick up on how their parents react in certain situations, they also follow a parents lead in overall attitude. In order to have kids that are emotionally strong, stay focused on the positive. In other words, if you walk around in a generally bad mood all the time, or always lean toward the pessimistic side of things, then your children will do the same.
4Add discipline and structure to your child's life. Yes, it's true that you are trying to raise a happy child who can take emotional punches and keep moving forward, but that doesn't mean life should be a free-for-all. Children need boundaries in order to learn what is right and wrong and to keep them safe. And even though they might not understand all of your rules, emphasize that you set up the rules because you care. The rules you provide will strengthen your child, allowing her to learn from mistakes and cope with disappointments.