How to Handle Rude Children: 5 Steps - MakeSureHow
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Rude children can be difficult to control.

It's part of childhood for kids to sometimes be rude, but when their rudeness becomes extreme, you've got to put a stop to it. Don't worry so much about why your once sweet and polite child has become so rude -- it might be an influence from other rude children, or something picked up from TV and movies. Whatever the reason, you need to let your child know his days of being rude are over.


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    Confront the rudeness immediately. Look directly in your child's eyes and tell them in a clear voice "Stop doing that now!" Don't worry about where you are, or if other people can hear you. Explain that you will not tolerate such behavior and that such rude behavior is not acceptable. Stay calm, but be direct.
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    Talk with your child. An effective way to teach empathy to small children is by asking how they feel when someone is rude to them. You might ask him how he feels when another child doesn't share his toys. Tell him it makes you sad, too, when he is being rude, and ask him how he feels when you are sad.
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    Draw up a punishment plan together with your child so they are aware of the consequences of their rudeness. You can make this fun by using coloring pencils and asking what he considers rude behavior. One consequence of being rude could be missing out on candy for a week. You can also time take away from their TV time or sports activities, or use a special time-out step for a few minutes. You can also make a reward chart. too, where if he doesn't show any rude behavior for a week or month, he gets a reward, which might be a small toy or something else he enjoys such as a trip to the swimming pool.
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    Be a positive role model. Children can mimic their parents behavior, so don't allow yourself to become a negative role model. It can be difficult, but be polite, kind and respectful to others, even to those who are not polite themselves!
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    Praise your child and reward good behavior. If she has done something well, don't forget to reward them with praise and explain why you are pleased with them. You could say something along the lines of "Thank you for setting the table, that saves me time."


  • Do not laugh if they are being rude, even if they are being funny. This will only encourage their behavior.Discuss your child's behavior with her teacher if you are overly concerned.Give your child constant reminders of what good behavior is, such as reminding them to always say "thank you" and "please."Check up the TV shows your child is watching. It might be he is copying some of the behavior from TV shows.


  • If you do feel unable to cope, and the rude behavior seems to be getting worse and not improving, consider getting outside help from another family member, or talk to your family doctor about any help available.

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