You can get your child excited to talk about her day.
Getting kids excited to talk about their day is easier than many parents think. Even if your child is on the quiet side, you can get her talking if you start the information-sharing habit at an early age. Share details of your day as a family around the dinner table, or in the car on the way home, making sure your kids know you are interested in their lives. Open the door now to positive and enthusiastic communication, and you're less likely to get it slammed shut on you once your sweet little toddler's a teen.
1Ask questions. Adults may readily volunteer information about their day in the course of normal conversation, but little ones need some prompting. Ask her what toys she played with in preschool today, or who she played with on the playground, or if she learned any new songs, or if she had fun with her friends. Avoid yes-or-no questions, but make the answers easy to figure out. If you ask your child what she learned today, for example, she may have learned 15 new things and will get frustrated trying to describe it all. Instead, ask her to name one thing she learned.
2Listen with open ears. Nothing dampens a kid's enthusiasm for sharing like a dismissive response. You may feel like her dispute with a classmate is silly or her reaction to a teacher's comment is extreme. But take your child's problem seriously -- for her, it's a serious problem -- and help her come up with a solution. Kids are much more likely to want to talk to you when they know you're really listening. When you disregard their problems, they may begin to feel that you don't want to hear what they have to say, and they may shut down.
3Avoid criticism. You know how much you hate it when you open up to a friend or family member and that person immediately begins to pick you apart. Provide the same kind of sympathetic sounding board for your little one that you'd like for yourself. Let your child figure out what she did wrong through the process of talking it out with you, and then tell her that while you are her biggest fan and you are always on her side, her actions were not appropriate. If she knows you are on her team even when you don't agree with her, she is more likely to want to talk to you.
4Let your child finish a story. Don't jump to conclusions the moment your child mentions tripping another kid or saying something mean. Listen while she tells you why she did it, and then you can discuss her actions. Ask her why she felt the need to do that. This type of conversation will help to influence your child's eagerness to talk to you about the happenings of her day in the future, because she knows you are interested in her side of the story.
5Discuss every family member's day around the dinner table. Children whose parents talk to them about their own days are more willing to discuss what happened during their day. It excites toddlers and preschoolers when they are included in an adult conversation, which makes them want to share their stories with you. If older siblings are also taking part in the conversation, that makes it even cooler.
6Spend time with your child. The more you hang around together, the more she will trust you and want to talk to you. Your time and attention show her that you love her and you will always be there for her. When she knows you're really genuinely interested in her and the details of her life, she'll be more likely to want to talk to you about her day.
- Make sure you are always approachable to your child. Don't brush her off or tell her you don't have time for her. These things only make her think her opinions, problems and stories are not important to you.