How to Explain Rudeness to Children: 11 Steps - MakeSureHow
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Teach your little one that no one likes rude words, actions or gestures.

We all love our little darlings and we want the whole world to love them, too. But it's hard for the world to love youngsters who are rude. So you need to teach your child politeness and manners. The teaching begins by explaining to her, in a simple way that she'll be able to understand, what rudeness is. She'll first need to be able to recognize rudeness and then learn that rudeness is an unacceptable way to behave.


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    Teach your little one the difference between "nice "and "not nice" ways of asking for what she wants. For example, if she grabs a toy out of another child's hands, let her know that is not nice. Point out rude behavior whenever you see it in others. If you see a child in the park shoving another one out of the way in order to reach a swing, tell your child how "not nice" that is. Let her know you wouldn't want to see her doing that.
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    Suggest alternative ways of behaving to your child, using every opportunity where you identify rudeness to suggest the polite way to behave. Tell him to use nice words and to wait his turn.
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    Use the word "rude" together with the words "not nice." If your little darling calls her baby brother a "stinky poo," tell her, "that's not a nice thing to say. It's rude."
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    Tell him how rudeness makes other people feel, such as bad, mad or sad.
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    Tell her stories with characters who behave rudely. Stop and ask her, "was that a nice thing for him to say?" Identify the inappropriate remarks or behavior as rudeness.
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    Teach your little one to add the word "please" when making requests. Try telling him it's a magic word, because it magically makes people more likely to give him what he wants.
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    Give your child examples of when people are rude. If she understands "selfish" and "greedy," tell her that taking the last piece of cake without first asking if others want some is selfish, greedy and rude.
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    Let your youngster know that, unfortunately, some grown-ups behave rudely because they sometimes forget what they learned.
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    Explain how mean words about a person's appearance are rude. Let him know that it's rude to call people names like, "skinny" or "shorty" or "ugly," even if it may be the truth.
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    Let your child know that some facial expressions or hand gestures can also be rude. It's best not to demonstrate these for her because she might find them amusing and want to imitate them. If she sees other children or adults using these, seize the teachable moment and tell her they are being rude.
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    Be on your best behavior. Your child is watching you, so don't be surprised if he catches you being rude and calls you on it.

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